be happy with who you are

Hello everyone, this is gonna be my first post! yaaaay

anyhow, in this post,I wanna talk to you about something that’s been bothering me for a long time

I have always hated myself, how I look, how socially awkward I can be, and how stupid I can get sometimes, all I was thinking about is what others thought of me

But no matter what I did, or at least tried to do, I didn’t feel better,I only felt worse when I failed in achieving a goal

I kept trying and trying, but no matter what I achieved,I wasn’t satisfied with it, instead I hated myself even more and blamed myself of not trying hard enough

But then, this story happened and made me take a deeper look at the actual meaning of happiness:

There was this girl I knew

Shes pretty, skinny, smart, athletic, good singer,and very social

I thought that shes probably the happiest person alive, because she had it all

But once we started talking she started saying how shes not that great and she doesn’t like who she is

And that made me understand that in reality,

Almost no one was happy with who they are

Everyone wants to be better to impress others

You know why is it that no one is satisfied ?

What I learned was that once you start trying to be happy, or satisfied with who you are, it wouldn’t matter what others think of you , and it wouldn’t matter if you fail achieving a goal, because you’ll be fine with or without it

I guess what I am trying to say is once you start treating yourself right and start loving who you are with all your mistakes and flaws, it wouldn’t matter if you don’t succeed, it wouldn’t matter what others think of you, and hell it wouldn’t matter if they judge you

But don’t get me wrong,

There is a difference between wanting to be a better person and being unsatisfied with yourself

wanting to be better is totally fine if you are happy with yourself, because if you fail, it wouldn’t get you to hate yourself, but it’ll make you stronger

and now I am going to end it with one of my fave quotes:

“love yourself first and everything else falls in line. you really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world” – Lucille Ball